Tactic # 1: Start your discussion on the right track.
One of the biggest mistakes people make in persuasion is that they start talking about a topic or situation that the other person is not yet aware or familiar with. It's important to start your discussion on a point that people can relate to, preferably from the very beginning, unless you're sure that they already know the foundation of the topic of discussion.
Tactic # 2: Be crystal clear in imparting your message.
When you say, “He’s mad” do you mean he’s angry or do you mean he’s crazy? Whenever you're going to say or write something that is vague or may lead to miscommunication, it's highly recommended that you change the words in a way that imparts a clear message.
Tactic # 3: Give them a summary or an overall glimpse of the big picture.
This is vital when talking about something that takes a little (or a lot more) time to comprehend. This way, they can better relate the discussion to the big picture and “absorb” what you're saying.
Tactic # 4: Stay humble.
Never brag or be arrogant because it’s a big turn-off. The other party may think (in his own mind) that he’s better than you, and you’ll just bruise his ego.
You may even feign to not know things you may already be aware of if it would give you an edge in persuading him. Give him the impression that you are an ally and not in competition with him.
Tactic # 5: Pay attention to what is being said instead of thinking what you’ll say next.
This may be a little difficult for you to do initially. That’s why it is critical to practice & enhance your persuasion skills until it becomes a part of you. When listening, don’t interrupt while they’re talking. Wait a second or two before you speak. Avoid changing subjects because this indicates your disinterest.
Tactic # 6: Choose the right time.
When they’re not in the mood or when they’re pressed with time, your persuasion efforts may just fall on deaf ears because they will not give you attention.
Ask first if you can have a few minutes of their time. If they say it's not a good time, ask for a time that fits their schedule.
Tactic # 7: Never disrespect anyone.
Watch out for the body signals that you are giving away. You might be pouting your lips, breathing heavily, shaking your head, or rolling your eyes without you being aware that you’re offending others.
Watch your language too. If saying “Whatever,” “Oh brother,” or “Yeah right” is part of your lingo, practice taking them out of your vocabulary.
Practice and apply these 7 tactics, and you'll be able to influence people faster than anyone else.
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